Want to want sex again?

Here’s how to ignite your desire as a catholic woman.

Want to want sex again?

Here’s how to ignite your desire as a Catholic woman.

When sex feels like a chore...

Sex feels like another check box on your to-do list
You aren't “in the mood” when your husband is and you're both frustrated
You wish you could enjoy sex, but most of the time, you just don’t feel anything.
You feel disconnected from your husband.
You’ve tried waiting for desire to come naturally, but it never does.

Is there something wrong with me?

Short answer, no.

Let's get real for a second...

When you first got married, sex was hot! You wanted it, he wanted it, and it was fun.

But then somewhere down the line things stopped being exciting.

Now you just have sex to please your husband.

You want to want sex, but you just don't.

I can teach you how to get that desire back (maybe even more than you ever have!)

Is it ok to try to want sex more?

Let’s be clear: There is nothing wrong with wanting to cultivate desire in your marriage. In fact, it is good.

The Church Celebrates Marital Intimacy - The Catholic Church teaches that sex within marriage is not just allowed—it is good, holy, and beautiful. The Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC 2362) states:

“The acts in marriage by which the intimate and chaste union of the spouses takes place are noble and honorable; the truly human performance of these acts fosters the self-giving they signify, enriching the spouses in joy and gratitude.”
This means that enjoying sex, fully and freely, is part of God’s design for marriage. Cultivating desire is not about becoming obsessed with sex—it’s about embracing the fullness of the gift God has given you in marriage.
God Created Women’s Desire to Be Different—And That’s Okay
Many Catholic women feel broken because they don’t experience spontaneous desire
like their husbands do. But women often experience responsive desire, which means they often need time, connection, and intentional effort to cultivate sexual readiness.

Trying to get in the mood is not forcing something unnatural—it’s working with how God created you.
Taking Active Steps to Nurture Intimacy is Not Sinful
Some women worry that intentionally getting themselves in the mood is inappropriate, but there is a clear difference between preparing yourself for intimacy with your husband and engaging in self-focused lust.
It is not sinful to:
Take intentional steps to help your body and mind be more open to sex
Shift your mindset so that sex feels like a joy instead of an obligation
Engage in licit ways of awakening desire (such as sensory exercises, affectionate thoughts about your husband, or prayer)
It would be sinful to:
Engage in self-stimulation that leads away from the marital embrace
Rely on media or fantasy that distorts God’s design for intimacy
Treat sex as something purely for personal pleasure, rather than a shared gift in marriage

This guide is not about making sex an idol or forcing yourself into anything you don’t want.
It’s about helping you embrace intimacy in a way that is joyful, loving, and in line with God’s design for marriage.

So yes—it is absolutely OK to want to want sex more. And it’s OK to seek out tools that will help you along the way.

Introducing the

Getting in the Mood

Guide

A step-by-step guide created for Catholic women who want to desire sex, enjoy intimacy, and strengthen their marriage—without guilt, pressure, or forcing themselves into something they don’t want.

What This Guide Will Help You Do:

Understand why you don’t feel in the mood and what to do about it
Identify your unique desire type so you stop feeling “broken” and start working with your body
Learn simple mindset shifts that will transform sex from a duty into a joyful gift
Find practical exercises to awaken desire naturally—without romance novels, unhealthy fantasies, or unrealistic expectations
Use prayer and scripture to embrace intimacy as God intended
Have real, open conversations with your husband so that sex feels mutual and fulfilling

Imagine this...

You no longer dread intimacy—you desire it.
You feel emotionally and physically connected to your husband.
You understand your body’s natural rhythm of desire and embrace it.
Sex becomes a joyful, bonding experience instead of a source of stress.
You feel fully alive in your marriage—spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
This transformation is 100% possible for you. The Getting in the Mood Guide will show you how.

What’s Inside the Guide?

Why It’s Hard to Get in the Mood – Understand the mental, physical, and emotional reasons you struggle with desire.
Helpful Self-Talk Phrases – Transform how you think about sex so you actually want it.
Practical Exercises to Awaken Desire – Simple steps to engage your body and mind before intimacy.
The Problem with Romance Novels – Why they don’t actually help and what to do instead.
Using Scripture to Get in the Mood – Let God’s Word transform how you see intimacy.
Prayers to Help You Desire Sex – Invite God into this area of your life with guided prayers.
Using Imagination the Right Way – Cultivate desire without falling into unhealthy or sinful habits.
How to Get Yourself in the Mood (Without Your Husband’s Direct Help) – Practical, Catholic-friendly ways to prepare yourself for intimacy.

Hi I'm Ellen!

Sex was a huge hurdle my husband and I had to overcome early in our marriage, and we had no where to turn with the questions we had.

Now I create authentically Catholic resources for women on sex and intimacy rooted in Theology of the Body. I combine up to date sexology with church teaching to provide you with practical sex support that is 100% in line with the Catholic Church.

I want you to have an amazing marriage and an awesome sex life!

What are others saying?

"I have so much better of communication and I'm so much more comfortable with sex and the place it has in my life as a Catholic Woman" - Marie

"Because this course is Catholic, I knew I could trust it would not lead me away from church teaching but actually enlighten my understanding in a very safe way" - Anonymous

"I only wish I found this sooner.
Sex has been the absolute biggest struggle in my marriage, and Ellen honestly is providing life changing information. I have hope for the physical aspect in my marriage where for a long time I had none." - Anonymous

What are women saying?

“ This course explores everything and answers every question I ever thought of asking, and even questions I didn’t know to ask.

Having grown up in a highly saturated purity culture, I was too anxious to even explore the concept of an orgasm, and even felt dirty and selfish about it.

However, this course was a great source of healing, and restored the beauty and innocence that orgasm was always meant to have. very educational! This course was exactly exactly what I needed as a virgin prior to my first sexual encounter. It prepared me well!”

— Kathleen R.

“ I enjoyed this course I felt like it was really helpful, and that it will improve my marriage relationship and ability to increase my intimacy within my marriage.”

— Patricia C

“ I’m almost done and want to watch a second time but with my husband. I have found it super helpful so far, especially the things we wish our spouses knew but we don’t mention to avoid sounding like we want to control everything.”

— Anonymous

Here’s what you’ll get when you buy:

7 Comprehensive learning modules

Dive into a series of 18 videos across 7 thoughtfully designed modules that cover the foundations of faith-aligned intimacy and sexual pleasure, including practical insights and spiritual guidance.

Expert Guidance from Ellen Holloway

Ellen has guided dozens of women through difficulties with sexuality from a Catholic Foundation. She working toward completion of a certificate program in sex therapy and has studied Theology of the Body intensely and is graduating in 2025 with a Masters in Theology of the Body and the New Evangelization.

Transform your Bedroom

Experience a profound transformation in your approach to faith and intimacy, empowering you to embrace your sexuality, honor your faith, and embark on a path to deeper spiritual growth within the context of your intimate relationship.

Where can we safely look for this kind of information?

Finally, a safe and Catholic space for information about sex!

As a Catholic woman seeking to explore the realms of sexual pleasure and intimacy within the boundaries of your faith, you may have found yourself facing a significant challenge – the lack of morally licit and safe resources to turn to for guidance and information.

In today's digital age, information on sexuality is readily available, but much of it doesn't align with Catholic teachings or values. Many women find themselves hesitant to explore their own desires and pleasure due to the potential conflict between their faith and the information they come across. The question often arises: Where can a Catholic woman find trustworthy, faith-aligned guidance on this deeply personal topic?

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FAQs

How long do I have access?

Access doesn't expire. You'll be able to come back and review the lessons as many times as you need to!

Who is this course for?

This course is written for the married woman who is searching for solidly Catholic info about sexual pleasure and orgasm. If you're engaged, you're also welcome, but I would caution you that not everything in this course is appropriate until you're married. You know yourself best, do what is prudent for you!

Does the course content align with Catholic teaching?

Yes! Everything in this course is shared from an authentically Catholic foundation. I've done the hard work of sifting through secular resources that have some....not so good info in them. Here you'll find the good stuff and only the good stuff. I will never recommend practices contrary to Catholic teaching (i.e. masturbation or pornography)

What does this course cover?

The course covers everything from physical arousal and anatomy to mindset to the spiritual side of things to the relational aspect between husband and wife. This course is unique in its all encompassing approach that integrates both theology and up to date sexology.

Why should I purchase this course?

You deserve to feel the incredible and deeply unifying pleasure that is designed to accompany sex. If you’re not experiencing that within your marriage currently, I urge you to watch the content of this course and start working toward orgasm within your marriage. Also St. John Paul II called it a justice issue if the woman doesn’t receive orgasm, so you are justified in receiving this information!

What if I need more support after taking this course?

If after going through the modules you realize you really need some additional support, I'd love to chat with you about my one-on-one coaching program. Email [email protected] to get started!