
(without needing to go to confession)
If you’re honest, sex isn’t great.
It’s definitely not something you look forward to.
Your libido disappeared years ago and it doesn’t seem like she’s coming back.
You might avoid your husband’s touch because you don’t want it to lead somewhere.
You might tense up during kissing, hoping it ends before it escalates.
You may genuinely believe: “I think sex just kind of sucks.”
And at the same time…
You also know that it shouldn’t feel this way.
Marriage wasn’t meant to include this much avoidance.
Intimacy wasn’t meant to feel like something to get through.
Pleasure wasn’t meant for everyone else except you.
You don’t want more pressure. You don’t want another thing to fix.
You want sex to feel good, connecting, and life-giving the way the Church says it’s meant to be.
If you’ve ever thought, “There has to be more than this” this is for you
“I’m open to sex, but I don’t actually crave it.”
“I want to enjoy it, I just don’t know how.”
“My mind is everywhere except my body.”
“I feel guilty that my husband wants me more than I want him.”
“I’ve tried praying about it but nothing changes.”
“I feel broken or like something is wrong with me.”
“I want pleasure, but I’m afraid of doing something wrong morally.”
“Sex feels like another thing I have to do instead of something that fills me up.”
It’s that no one ever taught you how female desire actually works.
Marriage prep? Hmm I must have missed that session…
Youth group? Not a chance.
Theology class? I wish!
Not even in most Catholic conversations about sex.
So you were left to figure it out alone while trying to be a good, holy, loving, and selfless wife.
Want It and Enjoy It teaches you how to:
Rebuild desire from the inside out
Feel safe, present, and receptive in your body
Experience pleasure without guilt or fear
Understand arousal instead of waiting for it to magically appear
Enjoy sex as a shared, mutual, life-giving experience, not a performance
All fully grounded in Catholic teaching.
You don’t need tricks.
You don’t need to be more adventurous.
You don’t need to push past discomfort.
And you definitely don’t need to become someone you’re not.
This is a deep, practical, step-by-step process that helps you become a woman who:
Understands her desire
Trusts her body
Enjoys pleasure without anxiety
Feels confident receiving
Actually looks forward to sex


A group coaching program for Catholic wives who want sex to feel good, meaningful, and joyful.
Over 8 weeks, we cover:
Desire
Why you don’t want sex and how to rebuild authentic, sustainable desire
Arousal
How to help your body actually feel ready instead of rushing or forcing
Pleasure
How female pleasure works, why it matters, and how to experience it faithfully
Mindset & Nervous System
How anxiety, pressure, shame, and distraction shut desire down and how to reverse that
Communication
How to talk about sex clearly, confidently, and lovingly without awkwardness or fear (or fights!)
Catholic Moral Clarity
What the Church actually teaches and how to live it with peace instead of scrupulosity
If you are reading this and thinking, "Is it just me?" the answer is no.
So many Catholic women quietly believe they are the only ones who:
• Avoid sex even though they love their husband
• Feel tense or disconnected when intimacy starts
• Wonder why sex feels awkward, uncomfortable, or disappointing
• Carry guilt for not wanting sex more
• Assume something must be wrong with them
• Feel confused because the Church says sex is good, but their experience does not match that
This struggle is far more common than anyone admits.
Most women were never taught how desire actually works for the female body. They were never given language for arousal, pleasure, or emotional safety. They were told sex was important, but not how to experience it as good.
Nothing has gone wrong.
You are not failing at marriage. You are not broken. And you are certainly not alone in this.
Kristen and her husband went from feeling so lost to feeling confident!
Elizabeth was super cautious going in but was so relived to learn the course was super Catholic and everything in line with Church teaching!
Mindy went from frustrated with orgasm to actually understanding them and enjoying them!
Patricia loved learning everything and applying it with her husband (and wished she had it sooner!)
Chelsea still learned things after 20 years of marriage!
Monica went from thinking sex is just for men to realizing her pleasure mattered and was a good thing to pursue!
You don’t tense when your husband touches you.
You don’t mentally brace yourself when sex comes up.
You feel present in your body.
You understand what turns you on and how to get there.
You stop wondering what’s wrong with you.
You have sex not because you should, but because you want to.
You feel closer to your husband, not resentful or pressured.
And for the first time, you think:
“Oh. This is what they meant when they said sex is amazing.”
Weekly Live Group Coaching Calls
A safe, faithful space for teaching, coaching, and real-time questions (you can join anonymously or watch the recording too!) We start the week of January 26!
Structured Video Lessons
Clear, organized training you can return to anytime (you get lifetime access!)
Guided Exercises & Practices
Practical tools to reset your nervous system and change the way you think about sex
Practical Worksheets & Reflections
To help you integrate what you’re learning into real life and real marriage
Lifetime Access
This is work you’ll use for the rest of your marriage. You can come back to any of the course content at any time!
✔ Married Catholic women (if you’re engaged, send me an email at [email protected] and let’s see if it’s a good fit)
✔ Women open to sex but not enjoying it
✔ Women who want desire without guilt
✔ Women who want pleasure without compromising faith
✔ Women who are tired of pretending sex doesn’t matter
This program is probably not the right fit if:
✖ You are looking for explicit sexual content or graphic instruction
(This is thoughtful, respectful, and faith-aligned.)
✖ You want quick tips or techniques without understanding what is actually blocking desire
(This work goes deeper than surface-level fixes.)
✖ You are not open to learning within the framework of Catholic teaching on marriage and sex
✖ You are hoping someone will give you a script to follow without doing any personal reflection or practice
✖ You are satisfied with sex feeling “fine” or something to get through, and are not interested in changing that

Sex was a huge hurdle my husband and I had to overcome early in our marriage, and we had no where to turn with the questions we had.
Now I create authentically Catholic resources for women on sex and intimacy rooted in Theology of the Body. I combine up to date sexology with church teaching to provide you with practical sex support that is 100% in line with the Catholic Church.
I want you to have an amazing marriage and an awesome sex life!
Yes. This program is fully grounded in Catholic teaching on marriage and sexuality, including the goodness of the marital act, the unitive and procreative meaning of sex, and the dignity of the female body. Nothing in this program contradicts Church teaching. In fact, many women find this work helps them finally understand why the Church teaches what it does. The main sources used for course content are the Catechism of the Catholic Church, The Theology of the Body, Love and Responsibility, Guadium Et Spes, and Humanae Vitae.
No. The content is respectful, modest, and appropriate for Catholic women. We talk about desire, arousal, and pleasure clearly and directly, but never graphically. The focus is understanding your body and your experience, not providing explicit instruction.
You are not disqualified. Many women join feeling closed off, avoidant, or convinced that sex just is not for them. This program is designed specifically for Catholic women who do not currently enjoy sex and want that to change.
You are welcome here. We move gently and at your pace. This program does not force disclosure or sharing personal details. If you have significant past trauma, this program can be supportive, but it does not replace individualized trauma therapy.
No. This program is designed for women. Some exercises may involve communication or shared experiences with your husband, but you do not need his participation to begin this work. We always recommend that you talk with your husband about joining this program and involve him as much as he is willing and interested in it. His involvement can speed up progress and improve outcomes, but his involvement is not required to see major improvements in your sex life.
This is very common. As you learn how desire actually works and how to feel safer and more receptive in your body, many women find that this dynamic begins to soften naturally. We also address how to communicate about sex and desire with clarity and charity.
Plan for about 1 to 2 hours per week. This includes watching lessons, attending or replaying the group call, and practicing the exercises. You will see the biggest changes and improvements if you commit to 15-20 minutes of daily practice and study.
This program aims to reduce anxiety and scrupulosity, not increase it. We provide clear moral frameworks and emphasize peace, intention, and growth rather than fear or perfection.
Prayer is essential, but prayer does not replace understanding how your body and nervous system work. This program bridges theology with practical tools so prayer and effort can actually bear fruit.
You are never required to share. Many women choose to listen quietly and still experience profound shifts. The group environment exists to normalize your experience, not to pressure you. You can join the group coaching sessions with an anonymous name or you can choose to only watch the replay if you feel more comfortable that way. However, many women have found that the group setting helps tremendously in realizing that others have similar experiences and that they are not alone in this journey.
Yes. You receive lifetime access to the course materials so you can revisit them whenever you need.
This program is designed for married Catholic women. The topics covered are very intimate and may not be appropriate prior to marriage. If you are engaged and would like to join, send me an email at [email protected] and let's see if it's a good fit for you.
“ This course explores everything and answers every question I ever thought of asking, and even questions I didn’t know to ask.
Having grown up in a highly saturated purity culture, I was too anxious to even explore the concept of an orgasm, and even felt dirty and selfish about it.
However, this course was a great source of healing, and restored the beauty and innocence that orgasm was always meant to have. very educational! This course was exactly exactly what I needed as a virgin prior to my first sexual encounter. It prepared me well!”
— Kathleen R.
“ I enjoyed this course I felt like it was really helpful, and that it will improve my marriage relationship and ability to increase my intimacy within my marriage.”
— Patricia C
“ I’m almost done and want to watch a second time but with my husband. I have found it super helpful so far, especially the things we wish our spouses knew but we don’t mention to avoid sounding like we want to control everything.”
— Anonymous
Dive into a series of 18 videos across 7 thoughtfully designed modules that cover the foundations of faith-aligned intimacy and sexual pleasure, including practical insights and spiritual guidance.
Ellen has guided dozens of women through difficulties with sexuality from a Catholic Foundation. She working toward completion of a certificate program in sex therapy and has studied Theology of the Body intensely and is graduating in 2025 with a Masters in Theology of the Body and the New Evangelization.
Experience a profound transformation in your approach to faith and intimacy, empowering you to embrace your sexuality, honor your faith, and embark on a path to deeper spiritual growth within the context of your intimate relationship.

Finally, a safe and Catholic space for information about sex!
As a Catholic woman seeking to explore the realms of sexual pleasure and intimacy within the boundaries of your faith, you may have found yourself facing a significant challenge – the lack of morally licit and safe resources to turn to for guidance and information.
In today's digital age, information on sexuality is readily available, but much of it doesn't align with Catholic teachings or values. Many women find themselves hesitant to explore their own desires and pleasure due to the potential conflict between their faith and the information they come across. The question often arises: Where can a Catholic woman find trustworthy, faith-aligned guidance on this deeply personal topic?
Welcome to the Orgasm Course!
The Church Celebrates Marital Intimacy - The Catholic Church teaches that sex within marriage is good, holy, and beautiful. The Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC 2362) states:
“The acts in marriage by which the intimate and chaste union of the spouses takes place are noble and honorable; the truly human performance of these acts fosters the self-giving they signify, enriching the spouses in joy and gratitude.”
This means that enjoying sex, fully and freely, is part of God’s design for marriage. Cultivating desire is about embracing the fullness of the gift God has given you in marriage.
God Created Women’s Desire to Be Different
Many Catholic women feel broken because they don’t experience spontaneous desire like their husbands do. But women often experience responsive desire, which means they need time, connection, and intentional effort to cultivate sexual readiness.
Learning how to desire and enjoy sex is not forcing something unnatural. It’s actually working with how God created you.
Taking Active Steps to Nurture Intimacy is Not Sinful
Some women worry that intentionally getting themselves in the mood is inappropriate, but there is a clear difference between preparing yourself for intimacy with your husband and engaging in self-focused lust.
It is not sinful to:
Take intentional steps to help your body and mind be more open to sex
Shift your mindset so that sex feels like a joy instead of an obligation
Engage in licit ways of awakening desire (such as sensory exercises, affectionate thoughts about your husband, or prayer)
It would be sinful to:
Engage in self-stimulation that leads away from the marital embrace
Rely on media or fantasy that distorts God’s design for intimacy
Treat sex as something purely for personal pleasure, rather than a shared gift in marriage
So yes, it is absolutely OK to want to want sex more. And it’s OK to seek out tools that will help you along the way.
Access doesn't expire. You'll be able to come back and review the lessons as many times as you need to!
This course is written for the married woman who is searching for solidly Catholic info about sexual pleasure and orgasm. If you're engaged, you're also welcome, but I would caution you that not everything in this course is appropriate until you're married. You know yourself best, do what is prudent for you!
Yes! Everything in this course is shared from an authentically Catholic foundation. I've done the hard work of sifting through secular resources that have some....not so good info in them. Here you'll find the good stuff and only the good stuff. I will never recommend practices contrary to Catholic teaching (i.e. masturbation or pornography)
The course covers everything from physical arousal and anatomy to mindset to the spiritual side of things to the relational aspect between husband and wife. This course is unique in its all encompassing approach that integrates both theology and up to date sexology.
You deserve to feel the incredible and deeply unifying pleasure that is designed to accompany sex. If you’re not experiencing that within your marriage currently, I urge you to watch the content of this course and start working toward orgasm within your marriage. Also St. John Paul II called it a justice issue if the woman doesn’t receive orgasm, so you are justified in receiving this information!
If after going through the modules you realize you really need some additional support, I'd love to chat with you about my one-on-one coaching program. Email [email protected] to get started!
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